It’s all in the eyes
People don’t realize it, but your eyes effect much of what you say; and when it comes to conversation with people, your eyes can be the magic words to creating attraction. Your eyes reflect mood, and that mood is usually very infective.
Before I go any further, though, test this out for yourself. Go stand in front of a mirror. Now, pretend to be suddenly angry. Look at your eyes: Do you see how they change – your eyes reflect your anger. Now take notice of your facial expression. This is what people see on your face when they see you angry. Now attempt to feel sad, your eyes should now reflect sadness. Notice your facial expression? This is what people see when you’re sad. What about happy? Cocky? Bored? Serious? Lost? In awe? Confused? Nervous? Confident? Aggressive? Shy? Laid-back?
Of the wide range of human emotions, all can be reflected in your eyes. And, like an actor, each emotion can be faked by simply focusing on presenting each emotion in your eyes. The emotion’s respective facial expression will follow.
In regards to conversation with people, we all use a poker-face to cloak the true emotions we may be feeling, maybe not with a blank face, but with an entirely different emotion altogether. Do you feel shy? Focus on your eyes and cloak it with confidence. Are you nervous? This is another emotion easily cloaked with an appearance of confidence. In the case of shyness or nervousness, confidence is your poker-face.
Simply appearing confident with your eyes isn’t enough to create attraction. With your eyes you want to tantalize, tease, be playful, flirt, entice, charm. Now get back in front of the mirror and think along these lines. It’s probably not going to be easy at first. These are emotional mind sets that most people aren’t familiar with. All you have to do is practice and it will eventually come naturally.
Humor and a sense of fun are some of the most powerful aphrodisiacs in the world, which is a key point you need to know to realize why appearing playful in your eyes creates attraction in people.
Appearing “playful” sounds like a childish term, but when it comes to attracting the opposite sex, it can be the deadliest weapon in your arsenal.
To the opposite sex, playfulness says a lot about you. You’re fun. You’re confident. You’re at ease around people. Obviously you’re used to being successful with people, because otherwise you wouldn’t have such a playful approach. You’re a flirt. You’re a tease. . .
Pay attention to the effect you’re having. Your eyes are such a powerful tool, that it only takes seconds to initiate an attraction.
In the end, playful eye contact, when used in the right amounts (not too little, and not too much) can seriously effect and entice someone.